Dear Kendra

"Till death do us part..."

Dear Kendra,
I'm engaged to a man that I love. We have had our ups and downs but we have learned and grown so much together. Anyway... He has always had a issue with my weight because when we started dating I was working out hardcore and eating right and I haven't done that in a while. And he has a gained a good bit of weight too. Because of that we don't have sex like I would like to and the attraction just isn't like it was. With that being said..I've been looking for attention from other men. I don't know what to do! I love him and I want to be with him... But I need someone who loves me, my flaws, and practices what he preaches.

Signed,
Till death do us part..???

My thoughts: Communication is key in any type of relationship; friendship, marriage, engagement, etc. Have you tried expressing your thoughts to your mate? Let him know that there is a disconnection and the fact that he has a problem with your weight, it bothers you. Does he cook healthy for you? Does he encourage you to exercise? Does he offer any type of support to encourage you to start a healthy lifestyle? If the answer is no, maybe you both should evaluate why you are with one another. The fact that you are seeking attention from other men, further says that you don't love him, unconditionally. Because despite the lack of effort on his part, it should never be easy to sway away from your relationship. sit him down, talk and express your true feelings. Otherwise, do not walk into a marriage thinking things will get better, because they won't. Start standing up for yourself as well. He only treats you the way you allow him to. Good luck.


Any advice?

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